Between-session companionship in therapy: why it matters
Phobia therapy works one hour a week, but life is the other 167. Good between-session companionship multiplies progress.
SUDS, the Subjective Units of Distress Scale, is a brief subjective scale of how much discomfort or anxiety a person feels in a given moment. It was developed by Joseph Wolpe in the 1960s and is the basic measurement tool of any exposure work.
It seems trivial — "give your fear a number from 0 to 10" — but used well it is what allows the work to be progressive, measurable and effective.
SUDS goes from 0 to 10, where:
It is subjective and personal. Your 5 is not the same as another person's 5. What matters is internal coherence: that your 5 today is the same intensity as your 5 last week.
In a structured exposure session, three moments:
The data interest you for:
The classic rule: a step is consolidated when, after 3-5 reps, your pre-exposure SUDS at that step has dropped by at least 2 points compared with the first time.
Example: in step 5 of your ladder, the first day your pre-SUDS was 7. After 4 reps, your pre-SUDS today is 5. You can go to step 6.
If after 5-6 reps the SUDS has not dropped 2 points, something is wrong:
Wrong: throughout the day, every 20 minutes, "what's my SUDS now?".
Why wrong: you turn it into a hypervigilance instrument. You measure your fear so much you produce more fear. It becomes another safety behaviour.
Correct use: only in structured exposure sessions and on demand in real specific situations (a flight, a meeting). Not as constant background monitor.
Wrong: not consolidating a step until SUDS is at 0 or 1.
Why wrong: 0 is meditative state, not realistic for everyday life. Insisting on 0 prolongs steps unnecessarily and frustrates.
Correct use: when SUDS at a step drops to 3-4 stably, the step is more than ready. Move on.
Wrong: "they say SUDS 5 in front of the dog, I'm at SUDS 8, I'm worse".
Why wrong: SUDS is subjective. It does not compare across people, only within yourself.
Correct use: longitudinal, intra-personal track. "My SUDS in this situation has dropped from 8 to 5 in three weeks." That number is meaningful.
Wrong: "I'm a person with SUDS 9 in any social situation". Internalising the number as identity.
Why wrong: SUDS is a momentary state, not a personality trait.
Correct use: state, not trait. "Today, in this situation, my SUDS was 7." Tomorrow it could be different.
Wrong: arriving at exposure, registering SUDS 8 and going home.
Why wrong: starting with high SUDS is normal in advanced steps. The graph of an effective exposure has high pre, very high peak, and lower post. Stopping at pre prevents the curve.
Correct use: register the pre, do the exposure, register the peak and post. The drop from peak to post is what informs the work.
There are variants of SUDS for specific populations:
SUDS measures state. Other scales measure trait:
For phobia work, SUDS is sufficient. The others enter when there is comorbidity.
You can use SUDS naturally in real situations:
It is a way of normalising experience and avoiding interpreting any discomfort as "this is unbearable". Putting a number measures, and measuring gives perspective.
SUDS is a simple, free tool with decades of evidence. The trick is not to obsess about the number, just to use it as data for the work. Number, not judgement. State, not trait. Tool, not safety behaviour.
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